Your Life Or Is It?

 Your Life Or Is It?

Your whole life, you want to be able to do the things you want to do. When you are a little kid, and you do not get your way, you pout and cry. As you grow older, you realize that society does not function this way. So, you figure out strategies to achieve your goals and dreams. However, under stressful situations, you may return to childish behavior to get what you want.

Finally, you become an adult, and you are able to do whatever you want to do with your life. Then something happens, and you realize that life is harder than you thought. Even if you work hard, have the right credentials, and do everything you are supposed to do to become successful, success does not always appear. Those who get frustrated may give up. Those who want to achieve their dreams buckle down and work even harder.

Life may seem like it belongs completely to you, but in reality, many factors determine your success and the fulfillment of your dreams. When you look for a job, that job may not actually exist, or it may go to someone they already know. Is it fair? Probably not, but it is reality. Once you understand that life is not fair, you realize that you are the only one you can rely on to make your dreams come true.

No one owes you anything. Once you realize that you are the one who has to take ownership of whatever you want to accomplish, life gets more predictable. There is freedom when you walk into a situation and know you can solve the problem in front of you. When you can solve problems as they come, take pleasure in knowing that you understand how to get through life.

If you feel like someone is controlling your life, then you need to do something about it. Gain the skills you need to finance the life you want. That may mean you need to travel, do a difficult job that pays well, or move to a location that is not as comfortable as your current one. Take solace in understanding that you are not alone. Many people have been in controlling situations and have become successful in their endeavors. They improved the quality of their lives. If you do not want to be at a certain place, work at a certain job, or have people tell you what to do, it is up to you to change your circumstances. It will be tough, but when you look back months and years later, you may realize it was worth it.

Life is wondrous, full of risk, full of excitement, full of success, and full of failure. When you are able to get up and return to life after a setback, you will eventually get to the place you want to be. Others have happiness in their lives, and so can you. So get out there, get busy, and improve your life. See the world, meet new people, learn new skills, and do not be afraid to pay to further your education if it will improve your lot in life. Sometimes reading a book, watching a video online, listening to a podcast, or talking to a knowledgeable person is all you need to give you the excitement to take risks and make a major change. Just imagine how your life will improve when you are willing to make difficult choices and work hard. Keep moving until you get to the place you want in your life.

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Life Is Up To You!

Life Is Up To You!

When you were a child, you think you know everything. After you grow up, you realize you do not know anything. After you are gone, those that remember you will not remember much of your life. Only memories of things they sort of remember, but not the real substance of who you are and what made you you.

Once you realize that most people do not think about you, it is freeing. You can begin to do the things you want in life, and not worry about what others may think of you or those actions. People mostly think of themselves, and maybe their families at most. Everybody else is not important. After this revelation, you have the freedom to be the real person that you want to be.

Happiness begins within yourself. There is no one that can give you happiness. There is nothing that you can do, see, or go to that will bring happiness to you. Throughout history, people have been in horrendous situations, and many have found happiness. You are the one that determines the happiness in your life.

Many think that money, or wealth, leads to happiness. Those that win large sums of money in some type of sweepstakes or lottery often find out this is not true. Whatever sadness they had in their heart will continue, even with the large sum of money they won. Most of the time, they will promptly spend it and go back to the standard of living they had before they won the money. Still not happy in their lives.

Since happiness does not come from money, it does not come from having a job, going to exotic locations, or the opinions of others. It must come from somewhere else. Happiness is the ability to do the things in your life with the freedom to achieve them. For some people, that does require money. For others, it requires not worrying about other people's thoughts about them.

In reality, if you have a goal, you are able to achieve it. People without goals achieve nothing. Goals give you a destination in your life journey. Hopefully, you can accomplish some of those goals in your lifetime. If not, hopefully you are at least on the path to achieve some of those goals. In any case, try something if you want to improve your life!

If you are waiting for somebody to give you permission to go do the things you want, to find the happiness that you long for, that is not going to happen. Like all things in life, it is up to you. So get out there and achieve everything that you want in this amazing world. When it is up to you, you are the only one you can depend on to achieve your dreams.

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Make It Happen

 Make It Happen

No one owes you anything. If you want anything in this world, you need to make it happen yourself. You cannot rely on anyone else for your success, happiness, or anything that will further your career. It truly is up to you to improve your lot in life.

People complain that they cannot do something or get picked for things that they want. Well, make it yourself. If you are an actor and you cannot get cast, make your own films. Put on your own play productions. Find a venue, and make it happen. If you are a musician, start your own band. If you cannot find other musicians to play along with, be a solo act. If there are no open mics in your area, make one yourself. If you are a poet, comedian, or writer, and no one ever hears your work, put on your own writing circle or writing session.

If you build it, people will come. Build something real and you show up consistently, people will notice because others want opportunity. Many people wait for permission. You make your own permission! Perhaps they do not realize that if somebody else can make something happen, so can they. Remember this, if someone else has been able to do something, why cannot you? And the answer is that you can.

Along your creative endeavors, there are many who claim to be practitioners of that particular creative activity. Some of them will support you on your trek. Many will not because various issues, often from their own self imposed restrictions. Some will support you. Some will not. That is fine. Stay focused on the work. Keep building. Keep learning. Keep getting better. Hopefully, you can help lift these individuals up if they want it. Do not worry. You will find other individuals that are willing to work hard. They will become your new colleagues.

This world is full of wonderful opportunities. But ultimately it is up to you to make those opportunities happen. Believe in yourself and back it up with action, because no one else will. And why should they care? They are trying to get through their own existence. If you do not care enough about the things that you want to achieve in your life, why would anybody else? Take ownership of your life, your creativity, and your happiness.

So get out there and create. If something is not working for you, you make it happen yourself. And if it is hard, that is good. Nothing amazing happens when things are easy. Obstacles are ways to show how strong you are. Obstacles do not mean stop. Obstacles mean you have found the part that will make you stronger. These obstacles are barriers for those that are not willing to take risks to improve their life. You are different, you will grow from these obstacles and live an amazing life.

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Be Unique

 Be Unique

Every day is a unique day for all of us. Sometimes life is very difficult. It feels like you are being knocked down when you are doing everything you can. You are giving it your all, then all of a sudden one day you walk outside and it is a beautiful day, and you realize it is worth it. Sometimes the beautiful day is a friend’s smile, a loved one’s hug, or a stranger giving you a nod. Little things go so far. They are all special in their own way.

But what do you do if you give everything, your all, and nothing ever happens. You try so hard and everything never works out. When is it time to give up. You cannot give up. You never know what the next day, next hour, next minute, or next split second will bring for you.

You know the truth. You know how hard it is to get through this wonderful thing called life. So every day you have a choice to get out there and experience life. It is an amazing gift, and you only get so many chances to use it well.

Find the light in your life. Find things that bring you happiness and joy. Do not give up regardless of what happens. Realize the next day is going to bring more challenges. They may be easier or harder. You can face it because you faced it before, and you will face it again in the future.

No one is responsible for your happiness. It is up to you. If you expect to find somebody that can make you feel better, that does not happen for long. Ultimately, it is up to you to find happiness and joy in this world. 

If you are unwilling to try, this gift can start to feel negative. It does not have to be that way. You can choose a different approach. Some people find joy helping others. Others find joy learning and experiencing things. Others find solace in being in the moment. They do not worry about the future or the past. They stay in the current moment.

Every one of us perceives reality in a different manner. Who is to say who is correct? Ultimately, you are the one that has to find happiness and joy in your life. You are the one that has to get out there and shake up the world.

Do not rely on a phone call or somebody giving you something. You have to make the phone call. You have to get the attention of others. If they do not respond to you, keep at it. Somebody will at some point. If no one responds, then you find a way to make it happen yourself without any help. It is nice when others can help you. But why would they. They are worried about their own lives.

It is up to you to be focused on your reality and figuring out what to do in this amazing world. If life kicks you down, it is up to you to stand back up. If it knocks you back down, stand up again. At some point life will stop taking the wind out of you. Perhaps you will be the one that puts the wind into life.

Ultimately, the ones that have a positive mental attitude, and realize that no one owes them anything, are the ones that achieve amazing success. It might be financial. It may be work related. It may be something you truly care about. It is up to you.

If someone gave you everything, you may be happy for a short time. At some point, you will realize you did not make it happen yourself. If you go through someone’s resources and you have nothing, you are back where you started. However, if you learn how to fish, you can feed yourself for the rest of your days. The best way to get better at life is to live life straight on.

Every day is a chance for success, even the days you feel bad. Those are the days you especially have to show up. Dress for the job that you want. Dress for the recognition and the respect that you want.

No one owes you anything. Not a chance. Not an interview. Not even friendship. If you get any of those, do your best. Seize the day. Carpe diem. In the end, you are the one that has to find happiness and joy in your life. Whether you are a toddler or you are in your final days of life, you have this. Believe in yourself, and others will believe in you.

Have the confidence to realize that you are given a very special gift. So many events led to your existence. One event from eons ago could have resulted in you not existing. In many ways, you are already a winner just by being alive. Maximize it. Be the person that you want to be in this world. If others cannot understand it, you still do. Sleep well at night knowing that you did a good hard day’s work. Achieve the things you want to do. Accomplish what you came here to accomplish.

Believe in yourself. Imagine how amazing this world would be if all of us believed in who we are, our skill sets, and our gifts that we can share with others. Once humanity grows out of its infancy, that will be the reason why. And if humanity never grows out of its infancy, we will know why.

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